
Frequently Asked Questions
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What is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)?
EFT is a structured, evidence-based approach to therapy that focuses on understanding and improving emotional connections in relationships. It helps couples and individuals identify negative patterns, strengthen emotional bonds, and build secure and lasting attachments.
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Who can benefit from EFT?
EFT is suitable for couples looking to improve communication, resolve conflicts, or reconnect emotionally. It’s also effective for individuals dealing with relationship challenges, attachment issues, or emotional pain related to past or present experiences.
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Do you only work with couples?
While I specialize in couples therapy, I also provide individual counseling for those seeking to explore their relationships, emotional patterns, or personal growth.
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How is EFT different from other types of couples counselling?
Unlike other approaches that may focus on problem-solving or communication techniques, EFT dives deeper into the emotional needs and attachment dynamics underlying conflicts. It helps couples create lasting emotional security.
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What happens during an EFT session?
EFT sessions involve identifying the negative interaction patterns in your relationship, exploring the underlying emotions and attachment needs fueling those patterns and learning to respond to each other with more softness, vulnerability and openness.
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What are attachment needs, and why are they important?
Attachment needs are the fundamental human desires for safety, connection, and support in relationships. EFT helps partners recognize and meet each other’s attachment needs, fostering a secure and loving bond.
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How many sessions of EFT are usually needed?
Most EFT processes take 8–20 sessions, depending on the couple’s challenges and goals. However, progress depends on each couple’s willingness to engage in the work.
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Can EFT help us if we’re on the verge of separation?
Yes, EFT has been successful in helping couples on the brink of separation by addressing the emotional disconnection and rebuilding trust and intimacy. It can also provide clarity if separation is the best decision.
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What if one of us struggles to express emotions?
EFT is designed to help even those who find it hard to articulate or connect with their emotions. The therapist provides a safe space and guidance to uncover and express feelings at a comfortable pace.
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Can EFT help after infidelity or betrayal?
Absolutely. EFT helps couples process the pain of betrayal, rebuild trust, and address the emotional wounds that infidelity often causes. It focuses on understanding and healing the attachment bond.
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Will we focus only on negative feelings in EFT?
No, EFT also highlights positive emotions and moments of connection. While understanding conflict is essential, the goal is to strengthen love, empathy, and joy in the relationship.
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How can I tell if EFT is working for us?
You’ll notice improvements such as: feeling more emotionally connected to and intimacy with your partner, decreasing conflict and misunderstandings and experiencing greater trust and openness in the relationship.
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Is EFT backed by research?
Yes, EFT is one of the most evidence-based approaches to couples therapy. Research shows it has a success rate of 70–75% in creating positive relationship changes, with 90% of couples reporting significant improvements.
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Is EFT suitable for diverse couples?
Yes, EFT is inclusive and effective for couples of all backgrounds, orientations, and relationship structures. It focuses on the universal need for emotional connection.
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Do sessions have to be recorded?
No, sessions do not have to be recorded. Recording is entirely optional and would only occur with your explicit consent. When sessions are recorded, it allows the therapist to seek guidance and feedback from a supervisor or peer consultation group. This ensures the therapist can refine their approach and provide the best possible support to you.